A Change in Perspective
by Melissa Hayes, M.S.
“This may not look like a lot of hair, but imagine all of this hair in a bowl of soup! That’s a LOT of hair!”
— Dr. Wayne W. Dyer
Dr. Wayne Dyer spoke these words with a chuckle on stage while pointing to his balding head.
Dr. Dyer was speaking to the power of perspective and how the benchmarks are unique to each of us.
His words stuck with me, in part because I was losing my hair at the time and feeling insecure about it.
“…imagine all of this hair in a bowl of soup!”
This became my mantra for years.
I admire Wayne Dyer’s perspective and the ways he taught people to empower themselves from the inside-out.
“Don’t wait for circumstances to change. Change your inner circumstances.”
(These words just came to me while typing. I’m sure Dr. Dyer or someone else said them.)
One of the most exciting moments of my life happened before this event. We had been in the venue for a few hours. Dr. Dyer was scheduled to speak soon. I wanted to be in a good headspace for it, and I knew getting some fresh air would help. I went to the car to get my glasses, although really I went to the car to have a break from the crowds. Sensory processing overload. ;-)
As I walked outside, I saw a small group of people gathered in the parking lot. To my delight and surprise, the tall man in the center was DR. WAYNE DYER!!!!! My eyes widened, and my feet turned to walk in his direction.
I was painfully shy at the time, and my heart was racing at my feet’s sudden decision to be social.
Dr. Wayne Dyer has been an inspiration to me since childhood. I never imagined meeting him.
I stood outside the circle in awe-or-awkward silence while the group continued to laugh and talk together. I recognized one of his daughters, Skye, who would be singing at the event.
Dr. Dyer turned to look at me with a smile and instinctive nature for including others.
“May I shake your hand?” I asked with a quiet, hopeful voice.
“No,” he responded flatly.
“But you can give me a hug!” Wayne quickly added with a genuine smile and opened his arms to pull me in for a hug.
A real hug!!!!
I’ve carried this exciting moment with me ever since.
I have some of Wayne Dyer’s atoms from our cellular exchange!!!
The quantum nerd in me absolutely loves this.
It gives me strength to feel as though I carry a tiny piece of him with me, as do countless others. Dr. Wayne Dyer touched the lives of many through his kindness, generosity, teachings, books, radio shows, and travels.
Wayne Dyer was never afraid to leave the crowd to follow the Light within.
When I have moments of feeling as though I don’t measure up in this fancy, modern world, I remind myself of how far I’ve come from the shy balding girl that day.
“This may not look like a lot of hair, but imagine all of this hair in a bowl of soup!”
I remind myself of the value of being authentic, even if one’s authenticity is someone else’s version of strange or not-good-enough. This becomes a helpful self-sorting mechanism for friends, loved ones, and peers.
Water of equal level always finds one another.
We see this principle hold true with fresh water, salt water, rivers, lakes, streams, animals, and humans.
I remind myself growth is personal and unique to each of us.
What looks to be a miniscule amount of growth for one person could be monumental growth for someone else.
This may not look like a lot of growth, but imagine all of this growth for a tangerine!
Wayne Dyer’s words and perspective have been my guiding Light, both inside my heart and on a quantum level.
By honoring my needs to leave the crowd that day, I met my childhood inspiration by happenstance in the parking lot. There’s a lesson there, which I learned while writing this.
As we finish the wild year of 2022, I pause to reflect on my growth and the growth of a few loved ones—including my dear cat, who is the co-host of this blog. I see the potentials for growth in our society as many outdated structures collapse from the misaligned weight of themselves.
It is up to us to build a more peaceful, loving, and intentional world from the wreckage of what may remain.
If you’re reading this, I know you are up to the task. I am, too. I hope you’ll take a few moments to reflect on your growth and feel proud of how far you’ve come, especially in the ways no one else can see.
May you marvel at your own version of Wayne’s perspective soup.
Wishing you all a bright and peaceful new year. ✨💗